Girls can’t get along, women gossip more than men, never work for a women; just some notorious lies.
Some truths: men in a group will flex to see who is alpha, visit a barbershop to hear hot topics; the best most vicious chat ever. Ask female employees at FOX Television how they feel about their ever so masculine bosses.
If I were a woman in the midst of history, as Mrs. Michelle Obama is in this portrait. Crossing that veil, how would I start a conversation? I envision a party in a grand room.
In my mind, Luther Vandross is playing; yes I know he’s not a woman–But he’s Luther…we women love him.
Flowers are everywhere, roses of all colors, rare blooms, smells wonderful.
The room has an open floor plan, and is bright and well lit, with portraits of unnamed women throughout time, who’ve fought on the behalf of all people. I read names and take notes, I will research these ladies later.
I walk over to groups and join conversations…here are some excerpts of my comments:
“Lady Gaga said, she’s just trying to change the world one sequin at a time, you guys would love her style; she’s fought for marriage rights for all. Selena Gomez supports UNICEF, helping at risk children around the world. Ariana Grande speaks out on the rights of women to be as human as men, which we would all agree is long overdue.”
As you would imagine, the party ends much too soon. If you were in the room, who would you seek to speak with and what would you say?
A question came up in the comments for my article The Aesthetic of A Full Figured Woman; that had to be answered. A reader wanted to see more inclusion in the dance area of my piece. Immediately I began researching, really because all women would like to be seen as a perfect Ten; a “dime piece”. I fully support this. So began the search for positive images of plus sized women of all creeds and racial identity. I put Meghan Trainor on for focus. Yes, her beats are fabulous! Today Better When I’m Dancin’, is blasting on my mind. I wanted to see current campaigns for positive esteem targeted to the plus sized lady. Current meaning 2000 and forward, so no Baby Got Back, here. Excuse you Sir Mix-a-Lot.
Meghan Trainor is a winner in the Defy Size category; so here you have an homage to her video All About That Bass by choreographer Katrina on YouTube. Love this because various forms of full are showcased. It is well known that while Booty is having its moment in the media, it is usually attached to a tiny waist and a pack of abs. Shout out to Joe Jonas and his group DNCE’s Toothbrush video featuring plus sized model and fashion designer Ashley Graham, as his lover. In an interview Graham stated,
Graham has a fashion line of lingerie for the fuller figure. Hopeful that the image of a love interest, in media, is shifting. Sexy, desirable, a vixen, an action hero, needs to be promoted in most sizes. Awaiting that feature film with a confident, damn it all, full figured woman, being fought for by two highly qualified handsome men. Bridget Jones Diary, really doesn’t meet the confident. The main character always seemed surprised by male interest. This girl I’m talking about has loads of boyfriends to choose from. Hoping Shonda Rhimes, producer, screenwriter, author; will make my dreams come true.
Bishamber Das, winner of the Miss India Europe competition, is Britain’s first plus sized model. Searched her Facebook page and discovered this quote, that is very telling for most women.
Growing Up I Always Believed I Was Never Worthy Of Love, My Community And Media Always Reminded Me That A Woman Like Me Was Fat, Ugly And Not ‘Marriage Material’ For Any Man. The Saddest Part Is I Started To Believe It, Every Time A Guy Would Compliment Me I’d Think He Was Doing It To Make Fun Of Me. Years Went By Different Experiences Came And Went, To Be Honest I Started To Hate Men, Had Trust In No One. It Was Only Till I Realised That The Only Thing That Mattered Was Me.
Located a list showing a visual history of the full figured woman in art. Loved Chuck Miller, especially his piece Seated Nude. The model is so relaxed, confident, strong.
Julia Zhukova an artist nick named the Dancing Brush offers beautiful works of women of all sizes.
Fashionistas come in all shapes, we know this. Plus-size clothing giant Lane Bryant started a campaign #ImNoAngel, to help all women redefine themselves. A finger to the Victoria Secret models with wings on runways. I should say I am a huge fan of the Victoria Secret models especially Tyra Banks. Banks has suffered many a shaming in the media, when her size fluctuates. Singaporean storeowners/fashion bloggers Priscilla Boh and Kayde Ling are empowering Asian women with their I Amcampaign. Ling told writer Erin Fisher in a 2015 interview,
“Being Asian with conservative upbringing, Singaporean plus-size girls often lack body positivity and confidence of their physical appearance. These ladies who suffer from low self-esteem end up hiding and being afraid to show their true self and beauty. The purpose of this project is to encourage the girls to accept and love themselves for who they are.”
These ads set to black and white like the Lane Bryant campaign. I am all about positive affirmations. Empowerment is important, currently our little girls are bombarded with what media thinks they should be everyday. We have to make this a conversation. No one’s future is written in stone; or designed based on how one is crafted.
Being a perfect Ten like Bo Derek; has been the goal for many. There are those who undergo in-depth plastic surgery to become Barbie. Slim women. There is a problem when we’re taking beauty tips from dolls and fantasy characters. When do we as women celebrate self? Celebrate women being their best selves. Comment on the confident, clever, curvy women you know; list their accomplishments. How have they shattered the media world’s conceptions? Looking forward to your shares; new additions to a positive campaign.
Reflecting on aesthetics, I couldn’t get Alessia Cara’s song out of my head. Really, I am still humming it as I write. She sings “Scars to You’re Beautiful”. She tells the tale of a girl, like me, that you don’t see in magazines. A girl craving the adoration reserved only for the beautiful, or so she assumes. Alessia’s observation is that, “She don’t understand she’s worth it.”
I decided to take a look at full figured aesthetics in the arts; and how artists reflect on what is striking, sensual, lovely. Artist Peter Paul Rubens offers vast examples of women considered full figured at the time; but like the plus sized models of today they rarely measure past size 14. Yet, still there is no Twiggy here. Venus at the Mirror (1615) and Ermit and Sleeping Angelica (1628) are two of my favorite paintings. I love the movement, you see the ladies stretched luxuriating, fluid in their stance. Still life paintings that move.
Natalie Angier, an author who wrote the introduction to The Full Body Project, told Mashable that Nimoy was deeply troubled upon hearing that most women felt some degree of body shame.
“It really disturbed him that women who considered themselves overweight had this terrible feeling about themselves,” Angier said. “He wanted to show the world that there’s beauty to be found in different body types.”
There’s never been more of need for a Vulcan Mind Meld; then there is when the media world shuns the majority of women.
Choreographers aren’t seen as folks who work with the hefty. Adjectives to describe their clientele would be slender, svelte, willowy. Well, get ready for a Pretty Big Movement created by Akira Armstrong. Armstrong, a dancer/choreographer with a lush, cushy, flourishing frame; outlines her journey in a mini-documentary “The Scene”. She is destroying dance stereotypes by putting her moves on the stage and wowing judgement to silence. Click here to see her testify as to why. There is also 4Thirty-Two, a dance group promoting self acceptance at any size. Their moves are current, young, carefree, and outstanding.
Cara is still crooning in my mind, “She craves attention, she praises an image, she prays to be sculpted by the sculptor” She testifying about how a world’s image can weigh down the spirit of one who can’t conform. Aesthetics view is broadening. The world is changing and selfies that get liked look like most. Yes, media is holding onto a limited standard, with both hands and two feet; but its grip is loosening. I hope, like Cara, that the world will change its heart. Beauty is more than the skin we are in.